I have received a lot of positive and negative feedback from many friends on the Landmark Forum. I enjoyed it thoroughly, here are my notes:
- 2 Distinctions
- registration conversations (e.g., salary increases)
- enrollment
- Have power now and create that for others → create a future that wasn’t going to happen
- If you can observe it, you are not it (it being thoughts, emotions, body)
- Hierarchy of Thinking
- Organization
- Community/Group
- Family
- Relationship w/ Another Human Being
- Individuals
- Organizations are meant to not be impacted by individuals
- Thought verus thinking (intellectual effort)
- Your “It” chooses things that you will not fail at
- Be → Occurring World, Do → Actions, Hove → Results
- “trying” is not real → only actions & results
- You always win the games you are playing
- look at your life to understand your games
- we play games!
- default games vs. games you make up
- Being group vs. being individual
- occurring world is group
- occurring is you vs. group
- People will sell themselves for a latte
- Take a game that you will fail at, so you can grow
- Occurring world: Leader of integrity vs. leader of roll call
- Imagine if you are training to climb Mount Everest who would you have to be
- worry about people being comfortable is playing their identity → play from how big people are
- Who you are is the reality of what?
- Profound relationship with reality or you create fantasy
- Koan: I don’t know my ass from a hole in the ground
- You spot it, you got it → if you see something wrong with something else, then you probably have the same thing wrong with you too.
- We make up stories and then we forget that we made up stories
- Unreal
- Base our lives on songs and movies → it is absurd
- What Happened vs. Story:
- Plans, Feelings, THoughts, Attitude, Past experiences, behaviors, hopes and fears
- Personal Tests
- Bottom Change (i.e. things you are doing) vs. Top Down Change (i.e. way of being content)
- When you are “being,” you just do → e.g., if you are a mom you take of your kid; you think of actions
- Mistakes
- you never make a mistake because in your occurring world you never do anything that opposes it
- Authenticity
- Authenticity → admiration
- sincerity (i.e. the weak trying to be authentic)
- Courage is the path to true authenticity
- Say support vs. help → people don’t need your help, they need your support
- World of Identity → Integrity → World of Enrollment
- World of Identity
- Lies
- Judgement
- Personal Tests
- Rackets
- Strong Suites
- Manipulates
- Story
- Ego domination
- Right/Wrong
- You or me
- Integrity: Honor ones word as oneself
- World of Enrollment: Possibility
- Love
- Acceptance
- Courage
- Responsible
- Creativity
- Happiness
- Dignity
- Leadership
- Well being
- Prosperity
- Empowerment
- Contribution
- Win-win
- Peace
- Support
- Power
- Purpose
- Vitality
- Play
- Freedom
- Authenticity
- Compassion
- Partnership
- Honoring your world is creating possibility
- Position vs. Stand
- Gandhi took a position
- World of Identity
- Enrollment Conversations
- Background of relatedness
- Problems: The source of problems is that people are blurred about their problems. The focus is “I want X, but Y.” For example, I want my sister to be happy, but she doesn’t like where she lives. Focusing on y ensures x will not happen. y is NOT in opposition of X. Imagine it is 1 year from today and you are preparing for this really exciting dream that would be make a difference with others and yourself. Describe it. Write down:
- 3 months from future date what would need to happen
- 6 months from future date what would need to happen
- 9 months from future date what would need to happen
- 10 months from future date what would need to happen
- 11 months from future date what would need to happen
- 12 month from future date what would need to happen — break into weeks