What are the chances?

I am very… very…very…honored to be here today. For the next 180 days, we will spend 90 minutes each day together. Do you understand how amazing this is? 

Think far far far back: Think about your great great grandparents and what would have happened if they had not met. Think about your great grandparents and think about if they had not met or if one of them had gotten sick before your grandparents were born. Think about your grandparents and if one them had taken a left turn instead of a right turn and if they had not met. Think about your parents and all the experiences they went through that may or may not have led to your birth. 

And, then think about all the different paths you have taken your whole life to bring you into this classroom. The probabilities are very very very low. Somehow, someway we will be in this classroom together for 90 minutes each day. I am honored. 

~ Dr. Chen, my high school physics teacher

What are the chances? What are the circumstances…what are the situations… what are the conditions that enabled you and I to be born. If you think through the long march of time that led to your birth, it’s rare.

With such low odds that you and I are here, two things go through my head:

(1) What are the chances that I am writing this and you are reading this. Whenever I meet a friends or family, or even sit next to a stranger, I can’t help but reflect on my teachers words of wisdom and think to myself with gratitude: “What are the chances?”

And, (2) With such a precious life, what am I going to do with it. As the Dalai Lama says, “To be born — at all — is a miracle, so what are you going to do with this life? Now that you have it. What are you going to do with it? Are you going to waste it? Are you going to do something interesting with it? Are you going to do something that matters to you [no one else] or not?”

With the probability of being born so low and with very little time (~90 years or less than a blip in cosmic terms), I can’t help but feel a sense of urgency — an urgency to not just tolerate my day-to-day, but to be excited, to be present and inspired by the day-to-day — to lose track of time (like I did when I was a kid and would spend hours creating cardboard spaceship for hours).

For years, I have been fascinated by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi’s concept of Flow — that state where you forget about time and hours later you pull your head up and you don’t even know where the time went. My theory is that everyone wants that — that feeling of flow — that feeling where you are so caught up in the present that nothing else exists.

For the past couple years, I have been asking myself questions based on the Meaning, Pleasures and Strengths (MPS) process created by Dr Tal Ben-Shahar (author of “Happier“) and based on the concepts of flow. He asks you three very simple questions:

  • What gives you meaning?
  • What are your strengths?
  • What gives you pleasure?

What about you — what is your MPS? Let me know in the comments. I pulled together a powerpoint template, so you can clearly write out your thoughts (Download the MPS Template).

All good things,

Krishan

Recommended Reading for Your Professional Journey

My favorite articles that I often refer to help recenter my professional journey:

  1. Change or Die by Alan Deutchman: In our personal and professional life — the most important thing to surviving and thriving is change; however, whether it a pre-diabetic individual focusing on health and wellness or a impatient manager realizing he or she needs to change, change seems almost impossible. This article delves into the science and art of change.
  2. The Brand Called You by Tom Peters: The new economy is an economy of tiny companies — we each have our own company; we each have our portfolio of clients (our jobs) and we each have our own brand: the brand of you. This article is 15 years before its time and it shows the kind of thought leader that Tom Peters is.
  3. The Magic of Doing One Thing at a Time by Tony Shwartz: So many of feel burnt out or stressed or like zombies when we work. Tony Shwartz discusses on tiny personal and management habits that can transform your professional life.
  4. Create a Meaningful Life Through Meaningful Work by Umair Haque: Umair Haque’s amazing HBR article on creating meaningful life through meaningful work. Does your work: stand the test of time? test of excellence? The test of you? Umair writes with heart and reason, and, most importantly, it sticks. I want to meet this guy and learn everything he knows.

[Continually updated]

Deepak Chopra Notes from Super Soul Sunday

Problems and Solutions:
+ Problem means you are living in a contracted state of being (i.e. fear)
+ Solutions mean you living in a connected state of being

Spirituality:
+ Recognizing that you are a spiritual being having a human experience –> that is the beginning of spirituality

Observer:
+ We are the observer behind the thoughts, not our thoughts
+ Most of the time people are not consciously observing or thinking our thoughts. Our thoughts mainly come from our previous experiences (karma), which creates our future thoughts and creates more karma

+ The highest form of intelligence is being ability to observe yourself without judging yourself.

+ Body and mind is a projection of your soul

How do you control thoughts?
+ STOP = Stop, Take Three Deep Breaths (and smile everywhere in your body), Observe What is Happening and Proceed Now with Kindness and Compassion
+ Just say “next” if you don’t like a thought
+ Take a deep breath, since one cannot think and take a breath at the same time

Karma:
+ For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction
+ Ultimate affirmation of free will: the actions of the past, create the present circumstances
+ The worst thing you can say about another contains a truth about yourself
+ The more positive energy you put out there, the more you receive, the more you can put out there
+ Prison of Karma: Conditioning of the past that rules of the life.

Mirror
+ What you say about others is a reflection of what you think about yourself
+ Everybody does the best they can at whatever stage of life they are in
+ When judge others, you are judging yourself
+ You don’t have a soul, you are a soul. You don’t have a body, you are wearing a body.

How do you maintain positive attitude?
+ I learn from the past, I rejoice in the present, and I re-imagine the future.
+ I use memories but I will not allow memories to use me.

Be Present
+ The best way to prepare for the future is to be present now
+ Become the director, producer and hero of your own life

What are some important questions?
+ Who am I?
+ What do I want?
+ What is my purpose?
+ What are my unique strengths?
+ What do I expect in meaningful relationship?
+ When you can answer who am I and what I want without saying what you do, then you are on a spiritual path

How do you lead a more spiritual life?
+ If you want to be happy, make someone else happy.
+ If you want to find the right person, then become the right person.
+ If you want to see the change in the world, then be the change.

Where you are is the point of arrival. In the West, there is always a point of arrival in the future and because of this you are never in the present.

Source: Oprah Interview with Deepak Chopra