The Shadow of Listening

What does it mean to listen? What do we hear? What is it about these sounds that enter our ears, and create countless emotions?

My question for each of us: what do you hear when you listen?

The shadow of being human — and potentially very often with men — is this desire to resolve/give advice/etc. during conversation. 

When you are speaking with someone, what listening habits do you see? Do the words you hear translate to

  • thoughts/memories of your life experience
  • Advice on how to resolve the problem 
  • Judgement of the other
  • Emotional connection of their experience 
  • Something else?

When have you felt heard? When you have not felt heard? When do you think you have heard someone, but they do not feel heard?